So let's chat more about dating...the reason I actually care about this subject, is cuz I am close to getting my ass into a relationship...or at least more serious dating than I have experienced in a long time. We'll call him Andy...he is a cool guy, and we have a lot of chemistry...but I am so wrecked from past relationships, that I need all the advice I can get so it doesn't get all mangled...
Tell me about your relationships from hell!
ByLBseahag at 9:16 AM
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I freakin' love dating!! But then again I got lucky and I am dating the most wonderful girl ever.
Relationship from hell was my first love, we dated in HS and she broke my heart into a million pieces and force fed them back down my throat. She is married now with a kid and still sends me emails with a picture of her happy little family, even after I asked her not too.
Best of luck, I think you should go for it you deserve to be happy :)
Hi LB,
Maybe start off on a positive note: Relationships that were all they were dreamed to be, and more. :)
His name was Richard, I hate that name! He was so sweet (NOT) to my face. I thought I was in love. He was so handsome and made me laugh A LOT!!! GOD I HATE HIM! I went away to school and would come home on weekends to see him. We were together about a year. THEN I found out from my brother that RICHARD (Let's call him DICK, shall we?!) was dating and had been dating Nichole (the hole) for about 6 months. Umm... thanks bro for letting me in on this little secret....oh..about 6 MONTHS AGO!!! I confronted him with it, no fight, no I'm sorry, nothing. I was heart broken. It did make me a much stronger person. Also made me realize that one year wasted in my life was ok. I could deal with it. He is now on his 3rd wife who is 54 and he is 37, LOL!!! Bastard! LOL!!!!
Don't pay no attention to Micheal.
Enough of that bullshit, let me tell you how I think of relationships. I'm not against them. Oh, no. That's not it. I've been in too many bad relationships to even tell you about ONE.
Listen, I think of it this way. There's no sense in carrying all that fucking baggage with you from relationship to relationship. That shit gets heavy. Keep it simple. Carry-ons only, please. Every guy is an individual asshole. Treat him like such. If you're going to be dating, you have to deal with men. No ifs, ands or buts about it. Just remember to wipe the slate clean once in a while so you can see thru all your mess.
Hi DaMasta,
The trouble is, sometimes our biases turn out to be self-fulfilling prophecies.
I'm going to d ate again, after I pass this frickin exam.
In the meantime, I'll just work-out and study.
I've been married so long I just don't remember the hellish dates. Or then again, maybe I'm blocking it all ;-)
I totally agree with damasta, each guy is an asshole in a different way.
My dating nightmare actually turned into marriage! Yep, I was married at a very tender age, and I paid the price...BIG TIME! Now I'm married to a great lady (have been for almost 10 years).
What's the secret? Get comfortable with yourself. That sounds corny, huh? This allows you to recognize when someone is wrong for you. If you aren't comfortable with yourself, you'll rationalize or accept the bullshit as what you deserve.
Trust me on this.
You AND your relationship are headed straight for hell if the only thing you're putting into it is your a-s-s!
Oh shit, seahag is going to date.
I have had a few stalkers in my life but that is about it. Nothing a restraining order couldn't handle.
Ooh ooh! I got one.
I dated a guy for a year before I found out his younger ape sister was stealing my underwear. He defended her saying underwear stealing was "normal." Sure it is!
Later on, after a nasty argument, I went over to his house to get my stuff (or what was left of it anyway). He saw me drive up and, instead of facing me like a man, he hid in his back yard from me and had his family and friends lie for him saying he wasn't home. I didn't even have any weapons!
I did make a huge scene and curse his family and friends because I knew they were lying, but we won't go into that here.
A year later we finally talked and he told me where he was hiding and apologized for being such a pussy. We did NOT date again.
Never date a man that runs from confrontation.
Well I have even less dating experience than Shannon. I was with one guy, we'll call him Rat Bastard, for 5 years off and on. After the second to last breakup, I moved to a different city, started a new life and then guess what happened? He called me out-of-the-blue and pulled me back into his evil web. I hadn't been away from him long enough to be able to resist him, so I ended up quitting the only job I ever LOVED, moved back home and got engaged. All this only to have my heart ripped out again a year later (3 days after our 1 yr anniv of being engaged) by him and smashed to pieces, and put into the blender until it was a nice, smooth puree that could be served with a straw.
The best advice I ever got was from my friend Zen. "Never go back!"
The only other thing I can tell you is to just take your time and get to know him. Then you can decide if he's a boy and should be put back into the playpen or a man and continue the relationship!
http://www.adanglassworld.org/blogger/2005/09/revised-male-and-female-compatability.html
I'm not the guy to ask for advice, but here are some "situations" for your enjoyment
will u take lots of pictures on ur dates with Andy? u know.. u smearing him in some sort of foodstuff. baking him in an oven. having his burned, charred corpse being sniffed by jinx... u know.. the usual?
Hmm I love the word Rat Bastard
Thank you, everyone for the awesome experience learning about the good, bad, ugly, and uglier...
its a scary thing to get close to anyone...
My advice is, "Don't rush the sex thing."
But WTF do I know? Asking me for dating advice is like asking Willie Nelson for money management tips...
Ahh yes indeed. I have lived the
Love Life from Hell, as you may well recall!
Currently, I am just angry and resentful. That's OK, right?
I won't..I won't..And YOU can't MAKe me!
oddly enough, i tend to fall for guys named andy. there were two in high school, two in college, and there was a fantastic piece of eye candy at my weekend job until a couple of weeks ago- all named andy.
go figure.
*daydreaming*
sorry- what was the question again?
Ive been married for 18 years..but I wanna say that the most hellish men are the online ones that are at work, looking for sex to make their day go faster...
I am damn glad I am not their boss, they'd be out on their asses!
And I think Damasta is a genius!
"Every guy is an individual asshole. Treat him like such. If you're going to be dating, you have to deal with men. No ifs, ands or buts about it. Just remember to wipe the slate clean once in a while so you can see thru all your mess."
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